New Years can be an emotional time. We reflect on the past year and look forward to the next. And often, people use it as a time to make New Years Resolutions. I’m not the first person to say this, but: I HATE NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS.
Issue #1: Often they are made out of some form of guilt or to change in some way that we are told we should. Most are not made mindfully or with genuine intention, which is why they fail within days. And when we “fail” at our resolutions, it just leads to negative self-perception and hurtful emotions.
Issue #2: While, yes, the new year inherently brings change, you don’t need to wait for this new calendar page to set an intention. You could make a goal or create a new path on a Thursday in April. Instead of paying attention to the New Year’s countdown, pay attention to what is in your heart.
Issue #3: Most resolutions focus on something we perceive as negative instead of celebrating something positive. Instead of trying to lose weight, why not try that new gym class you’ve been intimidated by? Instead of vowing to find a romantic partner, find a new hobby or club to join. The way we phrase intentions is vital to their success and how they make us feel.
I could go on, but you get the idea. My recommendation if you do want to make some sort of “resolution” this year: Picture what 3-4 word phrase sums up your hopes for yourself right now. For me this past year, it was “Embrace change and show up.” I think for me now, it’s “You are Enough. Celebrate.” Creating a positive mantra for yourself immediately changes the way you approach this new year and new intention.